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IS ONLINE DATING FOR ME?
This is always going to be a difficult
decision and anyone can convince you either way. The best way to find out
is to try it once. If it is not for you then you will know after this one
encounter. This may I remind you may be just a few personal messages over
the internet; or it could be beyond there and turn into a date. But
without trying you may never know.
There are simply loads of UK internet dating
sites around, with new ones springing up each week, all promising
thousands of singles online for you to meet. The key is to pick the right
one for you.
Online dating is big and busy; and as such
each site isn't the same. Different sites attract different people... so
choose carefully.
SET UP A NEW EMAIL ACCOUNT ESPECIALLY FOR
ONLINE DATING
To avoid comments and emails that you wish
you'd not started with, it is advisable to open up a new email account so
that you can direct all new messages and use as a current contact
information email when registering.
WHAT TO DO WITH ONLINE PROFILES
On reflection these can be the most
important aspect of your online presence. Give lots of information about
yourself, what you like, what you do, what you are looking for, why you
are looking, etc... Don't be afraid to tell people about things like you
have children or you like football. Members like to know about other
members and the more information you can give, the more likely it is
someone will contact you. Some people might be put off by the things you
say, but others will be attracted by it, everyone is different and
everyone is interesting in some way, shape or form. Keep it honest and the
rest will sort itself out.
Avoid where possible putting lame messages
in your profile. Do a little research and jot a few notes down. See what
other people have said right across the internet. Spend at least one night
investigating and exploring other profiles so you can make your own very
special and appealing. The lack of effort, should you chose that option,
can be seen.
If you are a labourer or a factory worker
you can still sound cultured, rather than bargain basement. Don't use
swearing or intimate suggestions otherwise it will cheapen your image.
HAVE AN HONEST PROFILE
Always be honest in your profile and in
exchanges with other members. Untrue information and photos will irritate
other members and will probably end a relationship before it has begun.
ONCE YOU PUBLISHED YOUR PROFILE ONLINE
You will undoubtedly get an influx of
initial attention. Carefully sorting through your initial responses and
picking out one or two that you are truly interested in is key to internet
dating success. You don't need to go on a date with every single person
who messages you. Be as selective while dating online as you would be
while dating in real life.
MAKING YOUR FIRST CONTACT MESSAGE
So, you've spotted a potentially interesting
person that you want to contact online. But what do you say? It's
important to try and make the right approach when first making contact
online, as you may only get one chance to make a first impression.
GET TO KNOW ABBREVIATIONS
In many private messages you may get
abbreviations and acronyms; there may be some hidden messages you are not
aware of. If you haven't done the research, then it maybe prudent to reply
by saying you're not familiar with some and the comments that have been
made, and suggest you gracefully retire from the conversation until they
are either explained or you've had chance to check them out.
AVOID BAD SPELLING AND BAD GRAMMAR
While chatting with someone online, you may
have some fast typing or spelling mistakes that a potential suitor may
find annoying. But until you get to that stage with someone, NO ONE should
know that you've got dyslexia, or just can't spell worth beans.
Most dating websites have a spell checking
facility; don't be dumb and not use it. It reflects directly on the type
of person you are.
CHECK YOUR INBOX
It is prudent to check your inbox quite
frequently. There's not much point joining an internet dating site if
you're not going to be active online with other daters. That means logging
into the site regularly and checking your inbox for new messages.
If you don't get into the habit of checking your inbox frequently, when
you do log back in, you may have lots of messages to read through from
other daters. It's then quite likely that you'll rattle out responses
without necessarily giving your message much thought or attention.
BE CAREFUL WHEN MESSAGING
Never post your full real name, phone
number, place of work, home address or any other information that will
make you personally identifiable in your online dating profile. Also, do
not give any of these details to anyone who contacts you until you are
completely happy.
Don't promise anything when talking to other
members, when in reality you'd be
uncomfortable if you meet in person. Flirting is fine in messages but keep
it to what you are happy with and if the person you are talking to takes
it too far for you let them know. Don't do anything unless you're happy.
Don't give out private information, not at least until you are comfortable
with your potential partner.
GO GET LOOKING...
The idea of an online dating site is that
you will get seen... But don't sit back and wait for things to happen. Go
looking and send your own messages.
TREAT OTHERS AS YOU EXPECT THEM TO TREAT YOU
It's very important to remember your manners
when communicating online with other daters. Simply ignoring a daters
efforts to communicate with you should not be the attitude. It's very easy
to get disheartened when daters don't return others efforts to
communicate.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE NOT GETTING NOTICED
If you find you're not getting many
messages, have another look at your profile. But most importantly don't
get despondent. Most times your profile can be improved, go searching once
more and see other popular comments and tweak them to add to your profile.
Come on... You are not dull, but your
profile may paint that picture. Practice turning negatives into positives.
Perhaps if you're a little overweight, say that you are cuddly and good
fun. If you like subjects that other find boring, say that you're into
exploring the unknown.
LOOK OUT FOR SCAMMER'S
Unfortunately, scam artists operate on virtually every Internet community
services. Never offer or send anyone any money no matter how temping they
make it sound, if it sounds too good to be true, it more than likely is!!!
DON'T DATE EVERYONE
Online dating maybe easy... But a few let it
go to their head, without really knowing their ego gets large and their
attitude becomes very brutal. Avoid wherever possible this trait.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU BECOME TOO CHOOSEY?
This is the opposite of online dating being
easy. Instead, because you have a lot of choice you find yourself becoming
too choosey. So you move from a possible 20 people down to zero.
AVOID BEING NEGATIVE
Sometimes in life it maybe all sad... But
you could say that you're at some crossroads in life and you think you've
chosen a new path. If you've just had a broken relationship, don't suggest
your life is falling apart; say that new doors are opening and life looks
sweet.
DON'T GET OVERWHELMED
The opportunities for dating are all too
obvious; and what can happen is that such opportunity can lead to a fear.
A fear of not being able meet anyone. Take a break from going to online
dating sites for a week.
GUT INSTINCTS
As you develop a relationship on the
internet, there will be certain signs that give you a gut reaction as to
whether they'll suit your temperament and personality. If you get a few
bad signs, don't allow a desperation override that gut reaction. Such gut
reactions can save many heartaches further down the line.
BEFORE THE FIRST DATE - ALWAYS TALK ON THE
PHONE
Before any first date you should have spoken
on the phone a few times. Do have alternative means of returning home if
you wish not to continue the first date. A
mobile phone will also be handy in case of any emergencies. Hearing
someone's voice and their level of comfort chatting on the phone can be a
good indication if you'll have anything to talk about once you meet in
person.
ARRANGING THE FIRST DATE
If you both drink, sometimes it’s nice to
meet at a cozy bar. (Not the big nightclub!) Try meeting for coffee or a
drink first. You don't want to be stuck having an entire dinner with
someone who bores you after the first 10 minutes.
Plus as an added security measure try making
your first date in or near someone you know. Perhaps you could
coincidently bump into them, just in case you need a get-out excuse.
Try to choose places that you have been
already and know well. It is good first date dating advice meeting during
the day if possible. If you have to meet at night, please do take adequate
precautions and let other woman and man friends know where you will be
visiting and for how long.
MEETING FOR THE FIRST TIME
First impressions count, so wear something
smart and comfortable.
Don't talk about yourself all the time. Show interest in what your date
has to say about themselves, and remember to compliment them.
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